Tuesday, November 20, 2007

Lily the big girl

This is one of those posts that has been whirling around in my brain at 3:00 am and that I haven't been able to put down quite the way I want to. Right now, you're reading my third and final (fingers crossed) attempt.

Even though Lily is almost five, I still think of her as my baby girl. Ella, by virtue of being my first, has just always seemed so big to me. That and she was born older and wiser than her years. But Lily, she's been my baby girl from the begining. She still even looks a bit like her baby self - with big pink cheeks and chubby fingers, even though she's stretching out in height.

It ocurred to me about a month ago that she really will be heading off to kindergarten in the fall, and it just doesn't seem possible. She can't be old enough to go. I must have looked dumbfounded in the hall at school when one of the teachers asked if Lily would be starting school in the fall. My jaw literally dropped as the realization hit. This spring we'll be going through kindergarten round-up, and next fall she'll be off to school all day every day.

Realizing this made me a little weepy. Lily has always been my little buddy, my grocery store and errands pal. I spend more one-on-one time with her than I do Ella just because of her schedule. We have an hour after Ella goes to school in the morning and an hour before Ella gets home in the afternoon. That's my time with Lily, and in August it will be gone.

At the same time I'm being weepy, I'm also realizing that Lily really isn't a baby - she's quite the big girl now. She has her own little life away from me at school, and today she had her first after-school playdate at a friend's house. Granted, I had to pick her up early because she suddenly got very sad and missed me, but still, it was a big step for both of us.

So I need to let go of the baby and recognize the big girl who has replaced her. As soon as she wakes up from her nap.


Barb Matijevich said...


That's my Janie. And she's in first grade now and STILL my buddy. I still love to climb in with her for a few minutes at night and just BREATHE her. She's seven. God, I've loved every age with her but this one is the best.

Seriously, it just gets better.


Suburban Correspondent said...

And how do you get her to nap? I can't even let my 2-year-old nap, or she won't go to sleep until 10:30 PM.

hokgardner said...

Lily has always been my sleeper. She doesn't usually take a nap, but once every week or so she just collapses in a puddle of worn out 4-year-old and falls asleep. Yesterday it was on the way home from the playdate at her friend's house. As we turned onto our street, she said, "Mama I can't keep my eyes open." Then she fell asleep. I think she was still worn out from camping.

Family Adventure said...

My baby is in grade 2 now, and he is *still* my baby. And he knows it, too. Don't worry - she'll still be your little buddy.

But I know that feeling - where does the time go?!